Feeling bullied at work?
Three simple things to do right away to start feeling better and stronger.
Workplace bullying and toxic environments have been found to affect nearly 40% of workers in the US. But it is a global problem. No industry sector is immune.
It happens to both highly experienced and younger professionals.
But you don't have to be stuck with feeling helpless and hopeless. You can develop the right tools to navigate effectively.
It happens to both highly experienced and younger professionals.
But you don't have to be stuck with feeling helpless and hopeless. You can develop the right tools to navigate effectively.
Stay or leave: either way, move confidently forward in your life and career.
Is this you? Maybe...
- As you walk from your car to the office, you feel a put of dread in your stomach. What new criticism is going to be yelled at you today that you'll just be expected to suck-up?
- You wake up in the wee-hours, your mind turning over and over-again what you could have done to stand up for yourself better.
- You open yet another demanding email from your boss and you feel like exploding. She will just not stop micromanaging you.
- As you put down the phone after a conversation with HR you feel utterly defeated. They just told you to "work it out between yourselves." You got not support or understanding. You don't know what to do next.
Now imagine...
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You’re in your boss’s office announcing your resignation. Relief and pride and gratitude wash over you. You’re not just leaving all the misery and toxicity behind – you’re saying what needs to be said, with complete confidence and grace.
What the organization does next is up to them. You are going to be just fine. |
Morning coffee in hand you scan your emails and agenda for the day. You catch yourself humming.
Meetings don’t feel like ambushes and emails missile attacks anymore. People may be worked up – but you? You’re serene.You savor the moment, still humming. |
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You pull into your driveway and savor the moment before getting out of the car. Six months ago work was bleak and miserable. And now…? Everything is different. You’ve have the space to actually do your job. You gather up your keys and walk into the house with the smile still on your face.
You did it. You had those hard conversations. And it worked. |
As you get back to your office after your first performance review on your new job, you do a big "Yeah!" fist pump. You had a few touch-and-go moments with your new boss. But you knew exactly how to handle it. And now he's your biggest supporter.
Tonight, you're celebrating in style! |
What is coaching? And how can it help
The mental health impacts of bullying and toxic environments are very real. Depending on how long you've been in the situation, you may very well also want to work with a therapist.
But to truly navigate effectively and confidently - either through or out - you are going to need to develop new strategies and skills, grounded in the reality of what bullying is.
That's where coaching comes in.
Coaching is a collaborative partnership, with you being the expert in you, and me being the expert in the coaching process. We work together to strengthen and develop the mindsets and behaviours that get you the outcomes you want.
Therapists are generally come from a medical model background. Where you are the patient. And your job is to get well. So it's not their job to work with you on navigating the organizational piece.
As a coach, you're not my patient. I'm your collaborative partner. My job is to help you design - and implement - the specific, concrete actions, behaviours and strategies that align with who you want to be. And which move you towards the outcome you want. All within the specific context of the power and control dynamics that are inherent in any organization, and most especially so when there is bullying.
What kind of results can you expect from coaching? While no coach can guarantee results, these are some of the things my clients report:
You've already tried to work this out by yourself. Now its time to get some expert help and support. Someone who is 100% on your side. So that you can kick this thing to the curb once and for all.
But to truly navigate effectively and confidently - either through or out - you are going to need to develop new strategies and skills, grounded in the reality of what bullying is.
That's where coaching comes in.
Coaching is a collaborative partnership, with you being the expert in you, and me being the expert in the coaching process. We work together to strengthen and develop the mindsets and behaviours that get you the outcomes you want.
Therapists are generally come from a medical model background. Where you are the patient. And your job is to get well. So it's not their job to work with you on navigating the organizational piece.
As a coach, you're not my patient. I'm your collaborative partner. My job is to help you design - and implement - the specific, concrete actions, behaviours and strategies that align with who you want to be. And which move you towards the outcome you want. All within the specific context of the power and control dynamics that are inherent in any organization, and most especially so when there is bullying.
What kind of results can you expect from coaching? While no coach can guarantee results, these are some of the things my clients report:
- Increased agility and skillfulness in dealing with difficult situations
- Stronger "presence"
- Thriving, not just surviving
- Huge reductions in self-doubt and feelings of powerlessness
- Less emotional reactivity, greater emotional regulation
- Increased satisfaction and well-being
- Increased sense of meaning, purpose and fulfillment
- Less stress and anxiety
- Confidence in their ability to deal effectively with negative behaviour
- Knowing how to respond to false accusations
- Knowing how to make their case
- No longer avoiding or fearing conflict
- More effective communications skills
- Strong boundary setting
You've already tried to work this out by yourself. Now its time to get some expert help and support. Someone who is 100% on your side. So that you can kick this thing to the curb once and for all.
You're magic, Sue. I have much needed peace now. And a sense of choice, control and power. |